Effective leadership communication
Effective leadership communication is one of the crucial traits that set the leaders apart from managers. Although it is one thing to lead, yet another to be an effective and successful leader. Anyone can take charge, but you need the right tools and skills to be the best. One of the secrets to standing out is understanding the concept of perception, as a part of effective leadership communication, that drives collaboration and success.
However what is perception? What means that our perceptions themselves tend to take on embodied form and use us as the vehicle for their activity?
Let me demonstrate that on an example provided by Jordan Peterson, a Canadian clinical psychologist and a professor of psychology at the University of Toronto.
Why we are angry?
When are you thinking about something, like anger, it is important to realise how it really works. The initial question would be: how must someone generally act if you going to be angry at them? The answer is that they have to be irritating or they have to provoke you in some way.
However, the key thing is, that the mere fact that you perceive what they are doing as irritating or provoking doesn’t ensure that anyone else has thought about it as irritating or provoking. Moreover, that it doesn’t ensure this is what they’ve meant or that is what is actually is happening.
The point is, that it is very important, to think about these complexes of ideas as subpersonalities. Otherwise, you really do not know what they are like.
For example, if you are angry or if you have a proclivity towards anger, particularly when it is unthinking proclivity, anything that someone says might irritate you.
Important to notice that it is not like: they say something, then you think about it and then you get irritated.
Why people irritate us?
Actually, in most cases, it is that you perceive the person as irritating, for some, often insignificant, reason like the way they look at you, as it can be very subtle. You might say that “it is not me, it is you, it is not that I’m irritated by you, it is that you are irritating.”
That is a very difficult thing to settle because the reality is somewhere between the subjective and objective. A significant part of the arguments that you’ll have with people during your life is exactly about that. About questions, am I irritating or are you oversensitive? Usually, it takes a long time before we talk about it and get an agreement on it.
If you are possessed by an emotional state or a motivational state or an idea or even some kind of complex you will see the world through its eyes. You might notice that the facts reveal themselves to you through the lens of that set of particular ideas.
An effective leader
A leader with effective leadership communication skills can notice and understand these subtle perceptions not only in himself or herself but also in others. This awareness helps an effective leader to be emphatic towards others and take good and honest decisions.