Confidence online
In times like this, the most used way of personal and business communications is online. We forget, that whether it is personally or also through online platforms, emotions of discomfort and stress treat us the same. Here are some examples what we can do while on the video call.
The intention for the conversation
Vanessa Van Edwards enumerated a very useful set of rules when we communicate with others. The first rule is that whatever you say, do it with an intention. The best conversations and the best conversationalists they always set the intention for the conversation. Think about what want to say before you meet someone and also before you participate in an online event. You need to know what you want to bring from the event like getting new business, meet a significant other, have a good time or to learn something. The rule is to set up your strategy for the night and again it could be as simple as I just want to laugh or I am going to have a good time.
Open body language with a smile
Research shows that our first impressions don’t happen when you first hear someone, it happens when you first see someone. Actually, the best conversationalist they start their conversation on the approach that the best first impressions happen when you have nice open body language. Even on the online webinar or meeting, if possible you want your hands to be clearly visible. Remember to have your shoulders down and back anytime with your smile as an open line.
Perfect opening line
So what is a good opening line? There was a huge research experiment that looked at almost every starting line in all the different ways. The top one by far was simple: ‘Hello, how are you?’ It is actually so nice cause it is so easy and so natural. No need to think of anything crazy just go with what is simple and then you look for what is called conversation sparks.
Conversation sparks
Conversation sparks is the difference between a dazzling conversation and kind of like a conversation. They are the non-verbal cues created when you are engaging curiosity when you are engaging someone to go ‘wow’ or ‘that’s really interesting’. Across cultures, genders and races there is one thing that everyone does when they are super engaged. It is the eyebrows raise. Anytime someone says something interesting we go ‘oh’ and raise our eyebrows.
Hit a spark
You are looking for the topics, the conversations and the stories that really mean something. Set your intention right, ask questions trying to look for mutual likes and then you know you hit a spark. Then you can go down in the conversation so you are looking for the spark, the eyebrow raise.
How to nicely end a conversation
If you ever want to end the conversation, first use, what is called, the future mention. For example ‘What are you up to this weekend’ which shifts the focus from present to future. Then they will talk about and that is your cue to say: ‘Well it was so great speaking with you I wish you the best of luck on that hike, I hope it will be great fun!’ Future mentioned is a nice little tag and it is a really clean nice polite way to thank them for the conversation and wish them the best of luck.
Confidence online – learn how to have great conversations online
The science of conversation can be used in any situation, whether it is professional networking events business meetings video calls and also the same for social online meetings. Support yourself with effective communication techniques and gain confidence online, where you can easily focus on what is the most important in creating new valuable connections.
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